The chapter reframes the self as a field phenomenon—an emergent process at the contact boundary—then defines the “sexual self” as the cultivated field where desire, imagination, and care turn potential into shared creation. Eros functions as an aesthetic, interruptive force that calls us back to the body and to co-authorship with the world; an erotic body is one that invites possibilities and participation, not mere exposure. Opposed to this is the “ob-scene,” where pornography reduces the body to inert flesh severed from context. Sexuality, especially when joined with love, uniquely enables temporary dissolution of ego boundaries in conditions of equality and vulnerability, yet we mistakenly credit this sense of fullness to the partner rather than to the erotic-relational experience itself. Sexuality can heal—or become toxic—depending on our willingness to face finitude and limit. Without the erotic components of arousal, mutual care, and boundary-softening, the drive toward self risks collapsing into individualism, control, and dominance. The authors critique medical reductionism, arguing that desire organizes physiology, not vice versa. In long-term bonds, hyper-organization and risk control can extinguish Eros; the antidote is ongoing, shared renewal—asking what we are creating together now. Ultimately, attending to sexuality is attending to self-generation, which remains the core aim of therapy and personal growth.