The chapter reconceives the self, in Gestalt terms, as a process that arises at the organism–environment contact boundary rather than as an inner, preformed entity. It argues that Eros—understood as a primordial, creative sexual force—energizes this emergence: in the “zero phase” of pre-contact, a fertile void of awareness allows figures to form from background, guided by bodily resonance (including subtle genital reverberations) that lends physiological strength to intentionality. Against dualistic, patriarchal reductions of sexuality to control or mere reproduction, Eros is framed as a unifying, transformative power that co-creates possibilities with the world. The text clarifies how spontaneity, meditation-like presence, and the suspension of compulsive dichotomies diminish anxiety (seen as a defense against awareness) and support the felt unity of self and situation. Drawing on affordances and intercorporeality, it describes micro-synchronies through which shared intention crystallizes into action. Sexuality and aggression are complementary: “dental” aggression deconstructs introjects and rigidities so novelty can be assimilated, while oral/anal destructiveness is cautioned against. Because humans are intrinsically dependent, autonomy grows by widening reliable supports, balancing novelty with background security; where security is minimal (e.g., psychosis), Eros can become disorganizing rather than creative. Ultimately, sexuality is presented as an original property of the self—an ethical, enlivening force that shakes off dead boundaries and inaugurates creative contact and co-authored meaning.